I watched the 20/20 interview of the actor Jason Patric last night and was surprised that a judge felt he was only a sperm donor. I get he and his ex girl friend Danielle Schreiber did not have the typical relationship, but I also felt that this use of the "sperm donor" card was because she felt jilted. I do feel bad for Jason Patric, maybe he didn't want to be a dad at first, but it looks like he fell in love with his son and played that roll with support from Danielle Schreiber.
Here is the interview for those wanting to watch: Jason Patric interview 20/20
Now I do fully support having laws in place to protect women/couples who use sperm donors from child custody fights with the sperm donor they chose, but how many people who use sperm donors actually date, are in a relationship and have their child call said sperm donor Dad? Not many would be my guess. So why did a California judge feel that Jason Patric, who played Dad to his son for almost 2 years, is now not the father? Because at the time of the IVF proceedure Jason & Danielle where just dating.
Out of all of this my heart hurts for that little boy. I have seen time after time couples who break up or divorce and the dads stop seeing and supporting their children. Mothers then have to get the courts involved to have the father step up and do what is legally right. So when a father wants to do what is right by their child, the courts say no he has no rights and please go away. The catcher to all of this: had they conceived their son naturally Jason Patric would have all the legal rights of a father.
I do feel that Danielle Schreiber could step up and fix this situation for her son, because out of all of this mess, her son is the one getting hurt. One day this little boy will be old enough to understand, to seek out answers, and when he does this will back lash on her. When anger motivates your actions, it will turn around to bite you in the butt. So Danielle do what's right by your son, because no matter what, as a mom, you have to put your child's needs a head of your own. If you really didn't want Jason Patric involved as a father figure you should have picked a sperm donor you had no intentions of being in a relationship with. One you would not have your son call Dad, and bond with. YOU made a choice Danielle and now do what's best for your son, even if it is not what is easiest for you. He has a Dad that loves him and WANTS to be involved, many women could not say the same of the fathers of their children, and would gladly have a father who loves and supports their children.